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LISA HAUKOM

Storyteller-in-Chief at The Goldenbrand. Real talk, cheeky takes, zero fluff. Visibility Expert + Creative Director. Substack & Photo Club ↓ | PopSugar+ | Come closer

VISIBILITY EXPERTISE FOR CEO'S, VISIONARIES, ENTREPRENEURS, & PERSONAL BRANDS

Lisa Haukom Visibility for women, self love photography the goldenbrandp

THIS just in
Loving yourself
Makes
YOU HOTTER.

Seeing Yourself Clearly Is a Power Move.

Turns out, untangling your self-worth from your self-image makes everything you do brighter, bolder, and yes—hotter.

Want proof?

Here’s what else will change… (These questions? Real. The answers? Even realer.)👇

Q: I hate every picture of me. Am I broken? A: Nope, just human. Your brain’s wired to prefer the mirror version of your face—not reality. It’s a trick of the mind, not a flaw in the face.

Q: How do I get over cringing at myself in photos? A: You don’t. You rewire it. Take more photos. Look at yourself more. Desensitize your brain to its own nonsense. I did it. It works.

Q: What’s your go-to photo trick that works every time? A: Lower your camera slightly below eye level, turn toward the light, and channel the energy of someone who already knows they look good.

Q: Is the “good side” thing real? A: Yes—but only because you decided it was. Your good side is the one you treat like it’s the good side.

Q: How do I look effortlessly cool in photos? A: Step one: Stop trying to look effortlessly cool. Step two: Find good light. Step three: Scroll back to step one.

Q: What photo trend needs to die? A: 2012 Facetune. Stop blurring your skin like you’re trying to ascend to heaven. You have pores. It’s fine.

Q: What’s the most controversial advice you give? A: You’re deleting your best photos. The ones you think are “bad” are the ones that actually look like you. Sit with that.

Q: What’s the best camera for self-portraits? A: The one you’ll actually use. (Yes, your iPhone is invited.)

Q: If I join Photo Club, will I finally love pictures of myself? A: You’ll stop needing to. Which, honestly? Is even better.

PS: These photos? Week one photos. Taken by the women inside Photo Club—of themselves.
🧲 This is what happens when the ick gets replaced with “Damn, is that me??”
There is no “next one” scheduled yet. This round is alive, unfolding, and changing people in real time. 🎈And I can’t promise the next one will feel like this.
So if you’re even a little bit ready—come in now. Wink wink, link in bio.
 🗣️This is the round everyone’s going to talk about later. Don’t say I didn’t tell you.

Here’s what else will change… (These questions? Real. The answers? Even realer.)👇

Q: I hate every picture of me. Am I broken? A: Nope, just human. Your brain’s wired to prefer the mirror version of your face—not reality. It’s a trick of the mind, not a flaw in the face.

Q: How do I get over cringing at myself in photos? A: You don’t. You rewire it. Take more photos. Look at yourself more. Desensitize your brain to its own nonsense. I did it. It works.

Q: What’s your go-to photo trick that works every time? A: Lower your camera slightly below eye level, turn toward the light, and channel the energy of someone who already knows they look good.

Q: Is the “good side” thing real? A: Yes—but only because you decided it was. Your good side is the one you treat like it’s the good side.

Q: How do I look effortlessly cool in photos? A: Step one: Stop trying to look effortlessly cool. Step two: Find good light. Step three: Scroll back to step one.

Q: What photo trend needs to die? A: 2012 Facetune. Stop blurring your skin like you’re trying to ascend to heaven. You have pores. It’s fine.

Q: What’s the most controversial advice you give? A: You’re deleting your best photos. The ones you think are “bad” are the ones that actually look like you. Sit with that.

Q: What’s the best camera for self-portraits? A: The one you’ll actually use. (Yes, your iPhone is invited.)

Q: If I join Photo Club, will I finally love pictures of myself? A: You’ll stop needing to. Which, honestly? Is even better.

PS: These photos? Week one photos. Taken by the women inside Photo Club—of themselves.
🧲 This is what happens when the ick gets replaced with “Damn, is that me??”
There is no “next one” scheduled yet. This round is alive, unfolding, and changing people in real time. 🎈And I can’t promise the next one will feel like this.
So if you’re even a little bit ready—come in now. Wink wink, link in bio.
 🗣️This is the round everyone’s going to talk about later. Don’t say I didn’t tell you.

Sunday Stories finds from the week. Take what you need and as always, big ❤️ to these creators for their inspiration. xx Lisa

Sunday Stories finds from the week. Take what you need and as always, big ❤️ to these creators for their inspiration. xx Lisa

So you want to be photogenic? Noted. But first—can we talk about what you think that means?

Because if “photogenic” lives in your head as some exclusive gene pool reserved for people with:
✔️Symmetrical cheekbones ✔ Zero skin texture ✔ An inexplicable glow that suggests they sleep in silk sheets and positive affirmations...

That’s not it.

📌Photogenic is a side effect. Of being comfortable. Of being consistent. Of doing the thing without spiraling. Of knowing you can take a good photo—and not needing 347 retakes to believe it.

Maybe—just maybe—you’re not showing up in your photos because you’re too busy managing how you look in them.
And listen. 
😏It might not be your photogenic-ness that’s bothering you. It might be the fear that you’re not relevant anymore. That you’ve aged out. That you can’t keep up. That showing up online just isn’t for you. (Which is exactly why you should.)

So here’s your reminder:
If the mirror is getting in the way of your magic, we’ve got work to do. I want you to step fully into your calling. And if your image is the thing that’s making you hesitate—I’m your girl.

So you want to be photogenic? Noted. But first—can we talk about what you think that means?

Because if “photogenic” lives in your head as some exclusive gene pool reserved for people with:
✔️Symmetrical cheekbones ✔ Zero skin texture ✔ An inexplicable glow that suggests they sleep in silk sheets and positive affirmations...

That’s not it.

📌Photogenic is a side effect. Of being comfortable. Of being consistent. Of doing the thing without spiraling. Of knowing you can take a good photo—and not needing 347 retakes to believe it.

Maybe—just maybe—you’re not showing up in your photos because you’re too busy managing how you look in them.
And listen. 
😏It might not be your photogenic-ness that’s bothering you. It might be the fear that you’re not relevant anymore. That you’ve aged out. That you can’t keep up. That showing up online just isn’t for you. (Which is exactly why you should.)

So here’s your reminder:
If the mirror is getting in the way of your magic, we’ve got work to do. I want you to step fully into your calling. And if your image is the thing that’s making you hesitate—I’m your girl.

Did I just connect the dots between Vogue editorials, tiny fruit, Meghan Markle, and Jeff Goldblum? Yes. Yes, I did. And I regret nothing.
Link in bio to subscribe and enjoy the magic.

Did I just connect the dots between Vogue editorials, tiny fruit, Meghan Markle, and Jeff Goldblum? Yes. Yes, I did. And I regret nothing.
Link in bio to subscribe and enjoy the magic.

It was never about the photos…
It’s the school locker room and the way you changed fast to avoid being looked at. The seat you gave up so someone else could shoot their shot. The friend who only called when they needed something. The silence after you spoke up in class. The group chat that kept going after you left. The offhand “Are you sure you want to wear that?” that stuck for years.
It’s learning—without ever being told—that being too loud, too big, too opinionated, too different has consequences.
And it’s deciding to take up space anyway.
Thanks Une Femme, for seeing me.

It was never about the photos…
It’s the school locker room and the way you changed fast to avoid being looked at. The seat you gave up so someone else could shoot their shot. The friend who only called when they needed something. The silence after you spoke up in class. The group chat that kept going after you left. The offhand “Are you sure you want to wear that?” that stuck for years.
It’s learning—without ever being told—that being too loud, too big, too opinionated, too different has consequences.
And it’s deciding to take up space anyway.
Thanks Une Femme, for seeing me.

Oh this one’s good!
What changed? Here’s what she did👇
 She stopped editing herself before she even hit the shutter. 💥

And listen, I’m not here to convince you that you’re photogenic.
 I’m just here to tell you that the real problem isn’t your face.

Yes, really. Because once you know how to snatch the light and nail the pose? You stop caring.
I mean it. When you know you can take a good photo, you stop obsessing.
 You take the shot and move on. No spiraling. No deleting. No “Ugh, I hate them all.” Just done.
Free.

So here’s your exercise (because you know I don’t gatekeep…(Ahem, I also don’t give away what we do in Photo Club, but you need to start somewhere...) 
📸 Pull up a photo you dismissed. 📸 Look at it like you were never supposed to shrink in the first place. 📸 Find the version of you in that frame who was taking up space. 📸 And instead of critiquing her—let her stay.
Because that’s the photo. That’s the magic. 
That’s you. 👋

Oh this one’s good!
What changed? Here’s what she did👇
 She stopped editing herself before she even hit the shutter. 💥

And listen, I’m not here to convince you that you’re photogenic.
 I’m just here to tell you that the real problem isn’t your face.

Yes, really. Because once you know how to snatch the light and nail the pose? You stop caring.
I mean it. When you know you can take a good photo, you stop obsessing.
 You take the shot and move on. No spiraling. No deleting. No “Ugh, I hate them all.” Just done.
Free.

So here’s your exercise (because you know I don’t gatekeep…(Ahem, I also don’t give away what we do in Photo Club, but you need to start somewhere...) 
📸 Pull up a photo you dismissed. 📸 Look at it like you were never supposed to shrink in the first place. 📸 Find the version of you in that frame who was taking up space. 📸 And instead of critiquing her—let her stay.
Because that’s the photo. That’s the magic. 
That’s you. 👋

Do I desperately need to get away? Is cabin fever a real thing? Yes, yes I do and yes it is.
Desperately manifesting spring for Sunday Stories. Take what you need. xx 💋 Lisa

Do I desperately need to get away? Is cabin fever a real thing? Yes, yes I do and yes it is.
Desperately manifesting spring for Sunday Stories. Take what you need. xx 💋 Lisa

Lemme tell you a secret about this shoot…
Actually, so many secrets. Come closer. 🤫

It was shot entirely on an iPhone. I wasn’t even there. (Yes, really.) It made mention on the cover of @cottagesandbungalows !!

Oh, and the speakeasy hidden passage? A whole other level of magic.

I can’t believe I haven’t shared this with you yet—because LOOK at Jenny @westrosedesign serving glam energy in hot pink with her impossibly photogenic pup Tessie. 💋

So how did we pull this off from two different states? The Roadmap, of course. (Photogs, if you’re still waiting for permission to create in new ways… consider this your sign.)

🪩 Now, tell me—what’s your favorite detail in this shoot? Because I can’t pick just one.

Lemme tell you a secret about this shoot…
Actually, so many secrets. Come closer. 🤫

It was shot entirely on an iPhone. I wasn’t even there. (Yes, really.) It made mention on the cover of @cottagesandbungalows !!

Oh, and the speakeasy hidden passage? A whole other level of magic.

I can’t believe I haven’t shared this with you yet—because LOOK at Jenny @westrosedesign serving glam energy in hot pink with her impossibly photogenic pup Tessie. 💋

So how did we pull this off from two different states? The Roadmap, of course. (Photogs, if you’re still waiting for permission to create in new ways… consider this your sign.)

🪩 Now, tell me—what’s your favorite detail in this shoot? Because I can’t pick just one.

“You know the password. See you inside?”
Some things you can’t unsee, like the first time you really see yourself in a photo. Like realizing confidence isn’t something you wait for. Like knowing you never actually needed permission.
You in? Or are you scrolling past, waiting for a sign that already showed up?
✨ Join Photo Club → link in tappy place.

“You know the password. See you inside?”
Some things you can’t unsee, like the first time you really see yourself in a photo. Like realizing confidence isn’t something you wait for. Like knowing you never actually needed permission.
You in? Or are you scrolling past, waiting for a sign that already showed up?
✨ Join Photo Club → link in tappy place.

Told ya. 👉 Good rule of thumb: Don’t wear trends when you’re recording evergreen content…or do? 😏
 “I thought I wanted better pics. What I got? An entirely new self-image.” “Currently revisiting a shoot I cried over and seeing the photos with new eyes. HOW DID I NOT SEE THIS BEFORE?” “I used to avoid the camera. Now I AM the moment.” “This course is ruining my ability to hate photos, and I’m mad about it.”

👉 If you want to hole yourself up in your bedroom so you don’t have to experience the sheer mortification (no, just me?? wink wink) of people seeing you let your guard down and actually love yourself—buy the course.
You’ll get instant access plus all future updates (and since I’m writing a book, trust me, they’re coming).

🧲 Self Photo Challenge is ON in the Club!
👉 If you feel all of that AND want real-time support, community, and a built-in reason to show up for yourself—join Photo Club.
💡 You’ll get access to the course for as long as you’re in the club (but you won’t own it forever).

⚡ Either way, you’re getting the tools to finally see yourself clearly. You just have to decide how you want to get there. xx

💋 And in all seriousness, sometimes the love just hits you out of nowhere. The way I love the women in this club… There are no words. These women stay in my life long after the Club and I’m so grateful. Big kisses to @michelvandevender for truly seeing me and capturing all things Lisa in this custom shirt. You are the best!

Told ya. 👉 Good rule of thumb: Don’t wear trends when you’re recording evergreen content…or do? 😏
 “I thought I wanted better pics. What I got? An entirely new self-image.” “Currently revisiting a shoot I cried over and seeing the photos with new eyes. HOW DID I NOT SEE THIS BEFORE?” “I used to avoid the camera. Now I AM the moment.” “This course is ruining my ability to hate photos, and I’m mad about it.”

👉 If you want to hole yourself up in your bedroom so you don’t have to experience the sheer mortification (no, just me?? wink wink) of people seeing you let your guard down and actually love yourself—buy the course.
You’ll get instant access plus all future updates (and since I’m writing a book, trust me, they’re coming).

🧲 Self Photo Challenge is ON in the Club!
👉 If you feel all of that AND want real-time support, community, and a built-in reason to show up for yourself—join Photo Club.
💡 You’ll get access to the course for as long as you’re in the club (but you won’t own it forever).

⚡ Either way, you’re getting the tools to finally see yourself clearly. You just have to decide how you want to get there. xx

💋 And in all seriousness, sometimes the love just hits you out of nowhere. The way I love the women in this club… There are no words. These women stay in my life long after the Club and I’m so grateful. Big kisses to @michelvandevender for truly seeing me and capturing all things Lisa in this custom shirt. You are the best!

I “like” my own posts. Who else is supposed to lead the fan club? I also take my own photos.
Here are a few other things I’ll bet you didn’t know…

✨ I think getting a little more “you” every few years is healthy. Evolving, rebranding, throwing out entire aesthetics like a deleted tweet? Love it. I am not the same person I was five years ago, and neither are you. Let’s not pretend otherwise.

✨ I refuse to “save” the good stuff. Life’s too short to wait. Every meal is a toast-worthy moment. Every coffee run deserves a little ceremony. If I love you, you’ll know it, because why make you guess?

✨ I truly believe every woman needs at least one “I don’t give a damn” outfit. Not the one that’s trendy. Not the one that’s “flattering.” The one that makes you feel like a force. The kind you throw on without thinking and still look like you meant to be seen.

✨ I don’t “believe” in bad photos - just unpracticed ones. You weren’t born knowing how to write, drive, or walk in heels. But you learned. Photography is the same. The problem? Nobody ever taught us how.

💌And that’s why I created No More Bad Photos.
I made this method to heal myself and somehow, in the process, it’s healed thousands of other women, too.

❤️Because photos aren’t just photos. They’re proof. They’re memories. They’re you. And you deserve to see yourself in them.

The next Self-Photo Challenge inside Photo Club is happening! You in? Or are you still waiting for the perfect shot? xx

I “like” my own posts. Who else is supposed to lead the fan club? I also take my own photos.
Here are a few other things I’ll bet you didn’t know…

✨ I think getting a little more “you” every few years is healthy. Evolving, rebranding, throwing out entire aesthetics like a deleted tweet? Love it. I am not the same person I was five years ago, and neither are you. Let’s not pretend otherwise.

✨ I refuse to “save” the good stuff. Life’s too short to wait. Every meal is a toast-worthy moment. Every coffee run deserves a little ceremony. If I love you, you’ll know it, because why make you guess?

✨ I truly believe every woman needs at least one “I don’t give a damn” outfit. Not the one that’s trendy. Not the one that’s “flattering.” The one that makes you feel like a force. The kind you throw on without thinking and still look like you meant to be seen.

✨ I don’t “believe” in bad photos - just unpracticed ones. You weren’t born knowing how to write, drive, or walk in heels. But you learned. Photography is the same. The problem? Nobody ever taught us how.

💌And that’s why I created No More Bad Photos.
I made this method to heal myself and somehow, in the process, it’s healed thousands of other women, too.

❤️Because photos aren’t just photos. They’re proof. They’re memories. They’re you. And you deserve to see yourself in them.

The next Self-Photo Challenge inside Photo Club is happening! You in? Or are you still waiting for the perfect shot? xx

But you know what’s NOT on my ick list?✌️

❤️Seeing my own face in photos and actually liking what I see.
❤️Watching the women in Photo Club go from overthinking everything to posting their best photos ever.
❤️Getting a DM that says, “OMG, I did it—I finally took a photo I love.”

Because as we all know (right???) the real ick is spending years dodging the camera when you don’t have to. 💋

🧲The next Self-Photo Challenge starts soon inside Photo Club. You in? Or am I sending you pics from the sidelines again? xx Link in tappy place friends ☝️

PS. What’s on your ICK list???

But you know what’s NOT on my ick list?✌️

❤️Seeing my own face in photos and actually liking what I see.
❤️Watching the women in Photo Club go from overthinking everything to posting their best photos ever.
❤️Getting a DM that says, “OMG, I did it—I finally took a photo I love.”

Because as we all know (right???) the real ick is spending years dodging the camera when you don’t have to. 💋

🧲The next Self-Photo Challenge starts soon inside Photo Club. You in? Or am I sending you pics from the sidelines again? xx Link in tappy place friends ☝️

PS. What’s on your ICK list???

Sunday Stories finds from the week. Take what you need. xx 💋

Sunday Stories finds from the week. Take what you need. xx 💋

You know what to do, because I Would Never Gatekeep This From You. Link in tappy place👆

You know what to do, because I Would Never Gatekeep This From You. Link in tappy place👆

You know what they say: trends come and go, but viral videos? They haunt you forever.

Listen. At the time? It felt like a moment. The hat, the aesthetic, the whole vibe. I was feeling myself, I hit record, I told the story. And then?

✨ BOOM. INTERNET IMMORTALITY. ✨

That video took off (if you’re on my email list you just heard the scoop) and now?

My big orange hat is part of my origin story—whether I like it or not.

But here’s the real question,Would I change the message? Not for a second.

Because this story—big hat and all—has momentum for a reason.
Women keep DMing me, saying: 📲 Lisa, I thought I was just bad at photos, but turns out… I was just wrong??? 📲 This isn’t about taking pictures—it’s about breaking up with my self-image issues?! 📲 No one told me this course was actually about SEEING myself. Oh.
And that’s exactly it. It’s never been about just getting a good angle. It’s about who you see when you look at your own photos.

When that shifts? Everything does.
🔥 No More Bad Photos is still on sale—but only until Friday. 🔥 The next Self-Photo Challenge in Photo Club kicks off March 17.

But what you really want to know is…would I make the same fashion choice again?
Debatable.
Would I still tell this story?
Absolutely.
Links in the tappy place above!

PS. Stripe Camp Shirt @lacsonravello

You know what they say: trends come and go, but viral videos? They haunt you forever.

Listen. At the time? It felt like a moment. The hat, the aesthetic, the whole vibe. I was feeling myself, I hit record, I told the story. And then?

✨ BOOM. INTERNET IMMORTALITY. ✨

That video took off (if you’re on my email list you just heard the scoop) and now?

My big orange hat is part of my origin story—whether I like it or not.

But here’s the real question,Would I change the message? Not for a second.

Because this story—big hat and all—has momentum for a reason.
Women keep DMing me, saying: 📲 Lisa, I thought I was just bad at photos, but turns out… I was just wrong??? 📲 This isn’t about taking pictures—it’s about breaking up with my self-image issues?! 📲 No one told me this course was actually about SEEING myself. Oh.
And that’s exactly it. It’s never been about just getting a good angle. It’s about who you see when you look at your own photos.

When that shifts? Everything does.
🔥 No More Bad Photos is still on sale—but only until Friday. 🔥 The next Self-Photo Challenge in Photo Club kicks off March 17.

But what you really want to know is…would I make the same fashion choice again?
Debatable.
Would I still tell this story?
Absolutely.
Links in the tappy place above!

PS. Stripe Camp Shirt @lacsonravello

Spring on my mind this week.
Well…spring and food.
Make that spring, food, and pretty places + people.
Yup, that covers it.

Sunday Stories finds from the week, take what you need xx Lisa

Spring on my mind this week.
Well…spring and food.
Make that spring, food, and pretty places + people.
Yup, that covers it.

Sunday Stories finds from the week, take what you need xx Lisa

You know what’s actually effortless? Looking like you tried.

The “effortless” aesthetic? A well-packaged illusion.

The kind of thing that takes 400 takes, a mood board, and two hours of pretending you just woke up like that.

And don’t get me wrong—I love it. My saved folder is practically an aesthetic kink at this point.

But we all know the best kind of presence isn’t curated—it’s undeniable.
✨ The girl who always looks good in photos? She just stopped overthinking it. ✨ The “effortless” style icon? She wears what she loves on repeat like a uniform for main character delusion. ✨ The person who always has something to post? She’s not filming 24/7—she’s repurposing like a pro.

The trick isn’t effortlessness—it’s knowing exactly what works and doing it again and again until people think you were born that way.

💌 No More Bad Photos sale ends soon. If you know, you know. Link in bio.

You know what’s actually effortless? Looking like you tried.

The “effortless” aesthetic? A well-packaged illusion.

The kind of thing that takes 400 takes, a mood board, and two hours of pretending you just woke up like that.

And don’t get me wrong—I love it. My saved folder is practically an aesthetic kink at this point.

But we all know the best kind of presence isn’t curated—it’s undeniable.
✨ The girl who always looks good in photos? She just stopped overthinking it. ✨ The “effortless” style icon? She wears what she loves on repeat like a uniform for main character delusion. ✨ The person who always has something to post? She’s not filming 24/7—she’s repurposing like a pro.

The trick isn’t effortlessness—it’s knowing exactly what works and doing it again and again until people think you were born that way.

💌 No More Bad Photos sale ends soon. If you know, you know. Link in bio.

If you’ve ever felt awkward in front of the camera—or are just done letting old life habits & narratives keep you small—you know where to find me.
No More Bad Photos sale ending soon & Photo Club doors are always open.
Links in bio.💋

If you’ve ever felt awkward in front of the camera—or are just done letting old life habits & narratives keep you small—you know where to find me.
No More Bad Photos sale ending soon & Photo Club doors are always open.
Links in bio.💋

Selfie Slapdown 👇
No, desperate is waiting for someone else to see you.

Sound familiar? (Maybe this was you.) 💬 “Women who take selfies are vain.” 💬 “Just enjoy the moment, you don’t need a photo.” 💬 “If you were confident, you wouldn’t need to prove it.”

Oh, is that so?

Because in my opinion? Photos are the only way to see yourself with perfect clarity. And if you’re already in Photo Club, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

✌️ Taking your own photo isn’t attention-seeking—it’s agency. It’s the difference between waiting to be seen and deciding you’re worth seeing.

And if that makes someone uncomfortable? That’s their problem, not yours.

Everything you need? Inside Photo Club. A guided method. The kind of confidence that sticks.

❤️If you’ve ever felt awkward in front of the camera—or are just done letting old narratives keep you small—you know where to find me. Link in bio.

💬 Clap back in the comments if you’ve ever been made to feel silly, vain, or ‘too much’ for wanting photos of yourself you actually love.👋

Selfie Slapdown 👇
No, desperate is waiting for someone else to see you.

Sound familiar? (Maybe this was you.) 💬 “Women who take selfies are vain.” 💬 “Just enjoy the moment, you don’t need a photo.” 💬 “If you were confident, you wouldn’t need to prove it.”

Oh, is that so?

Because in my opinion? Photos are the only way to see yourself with perfect clarity. And if you’re already in Photo Club, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

✌️ Taking your own photo isn’t attention-seeking—it’s agency. It’s the difference between waiting to be seen and deciding you’re worth seeing.

And if that makes someone uncomfortable? That’s their problem, not yours.

Everything you need? Inside Photo Club. A guided method. The kind of confidence that sticks.

❤️If you’ve ever felt awkward in front of the camera—or are just done letting old narratives keep you small—you know where to find me. Link in bio.

💬 Clap back in the comments if you’ve ever been made to feel silly, vain, or ‘too much’ for wanting photos of yourself you actually love.👋

If I had to rank the biggest creative roadblocks, this one would be wearing the crown.👑

The number of times I’ve given this note in Jam Sessions, Photo Club, DMs…

It always starts the same way:
“But I need them to get it.”
“I don’t want to sound too… [insert self-doubt here].”
“I just feel like I have to explain why—”

🚨 No. You don’t. 🚨

If you’ve been here, you’ve seen me work through this in real time. My hand is up. This was me. 👋

Listen, as soon as you over-explain, you’ve not only lost your power—you’ve lost our interest.

It’s not just about visibility—it’s also about what happens after you get comfortable being seen.
✨ What do I say?
✨ How do I explain what I do?
✨ How do I make it make sense?

🧲Let me be clear: You are already deserving. You do not have to prove it. You do not have to justify it. You do not have to wrap it in disclaimers so it’s easier to digest.

📣Ultimately? I just want you to show up. We want your voice, your art, your magic. We don’t want to miss you.

🔥 If you’re stuck on what to say or how to say it, Jam Sessions are where we untangle it. March spots are open now.
📌 Link in bio.

If I had to rank the biggest creative roadblocks, this one would be wearing the crown.👑

The number of times I’ve given this note in Jam Sessions, Photo Club, DMs…

It always starts the same way:
“But I need them to get it.”
“I don’t want to sound too… [insert self-doubt here].”
“I just feel like I have to explain why—”

🚨 No. You don’t. 🚨

If you’ve been here, you’ve seen me work through this in real time. My hand is up. This was me. 👋

Listen, as soon as you over-explain, you’ve not only lost your power—you’ve lost our interest.

It’s not just about visibility—it’s also about what happens after you get comfortable being seen.
✨ What do I say?
✨ How do I explain what I do?
✨ How do I make it make sense?

🧲Let me be clear: You are already deserving. You do not have to prove it. You do not have to justify it. You do not have to wrap it in disclaimers so it’s easier to digest.

📣Ultimately? I just want you to show up. We want your voice, your art, your magic. We don’t want to miss you.

🔥 If you’re stuck on what to say or how to say it, Jam Sessions are where we untangle it. March spots are open now.
📌 Link in bio.

I’m craving a little dead-of-winter escapism. And you? What are you really into right now? Take what you need.

Sunday Stories finds from the week and gratitude to these creators. 💋

I’m craving a little dead-of-winter escapism. And you? What are you really into right now? Take what you need.

Sunday Stories finds from the week and gratitude to these creators. 💋

Consider this your self-love checkmate.

Haven’t you heard? Burn Book Bashes are the new vision boarding/self care cocktail. A little catharsis, a little chaos, and a perfectly good excuse to gather your friends and set things (safely) on fire.

Like…
🔥Burning the idea that our body is something to be "fixed." (We do not expire. We do not "let ourselves go." We evolve. If anything, I feel sorry for my 20s.)

🔥Burning the constant battle with ourselves. (How many times have you deleted 299 out of 300 photos, only to keep the one where you’re contorted into an angle that doesn’t even look like you? No. No more. You are lovely.

🔥Burning the need to be likable. (How much energy have we wasted making sure we’re the right amount of everything? Too much? Tone it down. Too quiet? Speak up. Too loud? Shhh. No. We are done taking feedback from the peanut gallery.)

🔥Burning the Nice Girl. (I’m talking about the version of you who stays quiet, who smiles through the discomfort, who makes herself small because she was told that’s what being "good" looks like. Consider her gone.)

I have your hosting steps right here…
Link in bio, Because You Know I would Never Gatekeep This From You. ❤️xx

Let me know what’s going into the fire first. 👇

Consider this your self-love checkmate.

Haven’t you heard? Burn Book Bashes are the new vision boarding/self care cocktail. A little catharsis, a little chaos, and a perfectly good excuse to gather your friends and set things (safely) on fire.

Like…
🔥Burning the idea that our body is something to be "fixed." (We do not expire. We do not "let ourselves go." We evolve. If anything, I feel sorry for my 20s.)

🔥Burning the constant battle with ourselves. (How many times have you deleted 299 out of 300 photos, only to keep the one where you’re contorted into an angle that doesn’t even look like you? No. No more. You are lovely.

🔥Burning the need to be likable. (How much energy have we wasted making sure we’re the right amount of everything? Too much? Tone it down. Too quiet? Speak up. Too loud? Shhh. No. We are done taking feedback from the peanut gallery.)

🔥Burning the Nice Girl. (I’m talking about the version of you who stays quiet, who smiles through the discomfort, who makes herself small because she was told that’s what being "good" looks like. Consider her gone.)

I have your hosting steps right here…
Link in bio, Because You Know I would Never Gatekeep This From You. ❤️xx

Let me know what’s going into the fire first. 👇

Either way, the assignment was not to blend in. 💜💛
Mission accomplished. 💋

Pants Vintage ‘80’s
Silk Blouse @vince
Specs @warbyparker
Leather bracelet from last trip to Florence 🇮🇹

Either way, the assignment was not to blend in. 💜💛
Mission accomplished. 💋

Pants Vintage ‘80’s
Silk Blouse @vince
Specs @warbyparker
Leather bracelet from last trip to Florence 🇮🇹

Pick your fighter.👇

🙈 Lighting? What’s that?
Angles? Actively conspiring against you.
Patience? A distant memory. And your Camera roll? A crime scene….help.

67 attempts later—three outfit tweaks, one hair flip, a pep talk, a breakdown, and maybe some light screaming into the void—and finally (maybe?) a photo we don’t hate.

But…was it actually a bad photo, or just a bad belief system? But don’t take my word for it💕💕

“It’s about breaking up with my self-image issues???
OH.I truly believed I was ‘just not photogenic’ but turns out, I was just… wrong???”

“I am voluntarily taking photos of myself. WHO AM I?
No seriously, why doesn’t every woman on earth know about this??”

Listen, if you’ve been saving that one photo like a life raft—I have something better. 🔥 No More Bad Photos is still on sale. Link in bio.

Pick your fighter.👇

🙈 Lighting? What’s that?
Angles? Actively conspiring against you.
Patience? A distant memory. And your Camera roll? A crime scene….help.

67 attempts later—three outfit tweaks, one hair flip, a pep talk, a breakdown, and maybe some light screaming into the void—and finally (maybe?) a photo we don’t hate.

But…was it actually a bad photo, or just a bad belief system? But don’t take my word for it💕💕

“It’s about breaking up with my self-image issues???
OH.I truly believed I was ‘just not photogenic’ but turns out, I was just… wrong???”

“I am voluntarily taking photos of myself. WHO AM I?
No seriously, why doesn’t every woman on earth know about this??”

Listen, if you’ve been saving that one photo like a life raft—I have something better. 🔥 No More Bad Photos is still on sale. Link in bio.

Still in the mood for LOVE and the LOVELY. 💋
Sunday Stories Mood board.
Brilliant creators tagged, xx

Still in the mood for LOVE and the LOVELY. 💋
Sunday Stories Mood board.
Brilliant creators tagged, xx

Every few weeks, someone forwards me a video from a photographer with some version of this hot tip:
“You’re not too fat for photos… you’re just sitting wrong!”
Then comes the cheat sheet of ways to “fix” yourself and “hide your fupa” (and yes I absolutely had to look this up & frankly I’m offended.
✨ Angle your body juuuust right so you look thinner.
✨ Roll the skin of your thighs back so they look slimmer. ✨ Tuck your chin so your jawline “pops.” ✨ Cross your legs, shrink your silhouette & cover your belly with your arms.

No. Absolutely not.

Listen, I love that you send these videos my way—it tells me you’re paying attention. And that’s the whole point of what we do here.

But Listen,
Your body isn’t the problem.
The camera isn’t the problem.
The world convincing you to shrink? Now that’s the problem.

I’ll say it as simply as I can:
📸 You don’t need a trick to be seen. You don’t need an “angle” to be worthy.
The problem isn’t how you’re sitting—it’s that you’ve been trained to believe you need to shrink, contort, or disappear parts of you - to deserve a damn picture where you look and feel hot.

Allow me to be the one to remind you:
💡 A soft belly isn’t a flaw—it’s your laughter, your full meals, your deep exhales. 💡 A round face isn’t something to hide—it’s the canvas for your joy, your stories, your late-night grins. 💡 Your thighs, your arms, your body in motion? That’s the proof that you are here.

So no, I won’t teach you how to hide/fix yourself in photos but I will teach you how to stop believing you need to in the first place. Done. ✅

🔥 If this hit, you know where to find me. 💡 No More Bad Photos is still on sale. Link in bio.

This cute Camp shirt? From the lovely @lacsonravello who makes clothes that celebrate every woman’s body.

Every few weeks, someone forwards me a video from a photographer with some version of this hot tip:
“You’re not too fat for photos… you’re just sitting wrong!”
Then comes the cheat sheet of ways to “fix” yourself and “hide your fupa” (and yes I absolutely had to look this up & frankly I’m offended.
✨ Angle your body juuuust right so you look thinner.
✨ Roll the skin of your thighs back so they look slimmer. ✨ Tuck your chin so your jawline “pops.” ✨ Cross your legs, shrink your silhouette & cover your belly with your arms.

No. Absolutely not.

Listen, I love that you send these videos my way—it tells me you’re paying attention. And that’s the whole point of what we do here.

But Listen,
Your body isn’t the problem.
The camera isn’t the problem.
The world convincing you to shrink? Now that’s the problem.

I’ll say it as simply as I can:
📸 You don’t need a trick to be seen. You don’t need an “angle” to be worthy.
The problem isn’t how you’re sitting—it’s that you’ve been trained to believe you need to shrink, contort, or disappear parts of you - to deserve a damn picture where you look and feel hot.

Allow me to be the one to remind you:
💡 A soft belly isn’t a flaw—it’s your laughter, your full meals, your deep exhales. 💡 A round face isn’t something to hide—it’s the canvas for your joy, your stories, your late-night grins. 💡 Your thighs, your arms, your body in motion? That’s the proof that you are here.

So no, I won’t teach you how to hide/fix yourself in photos but I will teach you how to stop believing you need to in the first place. Done. ✅

🔥 If this hit, you know where to find me. 💡 No More Bad Photos is still on sale. Link in bio.

This cute Camp shirt? From the lovely @lacsonravello who makes clothes that celebrate every woman’s body.

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